Divorce Sucks...

I was talking with a friend recently and he shared that he and his wife are separated and she has filed for a divorce. They have their hearing in a month. I was deeply saddened by this news. What do you say to a friend who is about to be divorced? According to God's word, there is only one reason for divorce, adultery. Has adultery been committed in this case? I don't know. How can a wife or husband throw away over a decade together as man and wife? The statistics say over half of marriages end in divorce. That includes couples in congregations and outside of congregations. What the heck? Whatever happened to cherishing your wife or husband? I went through hell during my first three years of marriage and vowed never to return to that again. My wife and I always say, "Divorce is not an option."



AMERICA IS CRUMBLING



American society is broken because the America family is becoming past tense. There are very few social norms. I wonder what the statistics are for the stability of marriages of people whose parents divorced? I'd say those people may end in divorce too. Since I am talking about social norms, we could say there are none. Anything goes in America. Same-sex marriages, abortion of millions of babies (infant homicide), Islam being the fastest growing religion in the world, Christians being persecuted for their faith, conservative talk radio and tv about to go off the airwaves because of anti-Christ bleeding heart liberals, the value of the dollar shrinking because the government keeps printing more money etc...



DIVORCE IS OVERRATED



Why do people divorce? Most people divorce because they are not happy. Well, I say to yawl, "Boo hoo." Obviously wedding vows mean nothing and they are merely words people traditionally say. What happened to, "for better or for worst". Happiness does not come from external things. Joy can only come from having an intimate relationship with Jesus Christ. But if this is true, why are "Christians" divorcing too? The grass is not greener on the other side. Our marriages must last on earth because in heaven we are not married. Adultery according to God's word is the only valid reason a marriage couple can divorce.

WHAT IS THE ANSWER?

The answer to the divorce dilemna is to have a Christ-centered marriage where both the husband and wife have committed to lives first to Christ and second to each other. When one the spouses is not fully focused on the marriage and their spouse, expect problems. Both men and women can easily wander away from the marriage due to a host of things which include but are not limited by the following: lack of feeling loved, cherished, appreciated, etc... Great books to read to stimulate your marriage are the Love Dare from the movie, "Fireproof." Also the "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman (I think that is his name). Can I say that my marriage is perfect? Well, no. Marriage is a journey you take with your wife or husband, it is not a destination. Marriage takes alot of work and humility. If your marriage is on the ropes right now, don't give up. Jesus is your answer. First admit that you are a sinner needing a Savior, repent of your sins and ask Jesus to come into your life to be your Lord and Savior and believe in your heart He died for your sins, was buried and rose on the third day and you will be saved. Do it today.